We’ve all helped a friend out once or twice, right? It’s a great feeling to cover for food or whatever else they need at the time, when they’re down and out. And most of the time, a month or a week later, you’re getting the same favor from them.
But what if that friend decided to quit their job and then expected you to pay for everything whenever you went out? Well, a Reddit user was in this exact situation and said: “not happening.”
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Sometimes money troubles can drive even the groups of closest friends apart
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A poster came to Reddit wanting to figure out if she’s a jerk for not paying for her friend every time they go out
Image credits: u/Clementinecutie13
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The poster’s friend quit her job and wanted all of her meals and activities paid for as the poster had a better job and had recently gotten a promotion
Image credits: u/Clementinecutie13
As the poster agreed to only pay every once in a while, this caused friction between them, with the friend pushing the poster to pay “just help her out”
The people in the story were 20-something students. One of them had quit her job to focus on her studies, without any backup plan to have finances for extra spending.
When they would go out, they’d cover for each other every other time, so they ended up even. It worked for them. But once the friend quit her job, she asserted that the poster of the story, Clementinecutie13, should pay for them whenever they went out, because, hey, it’s only fair – OP had a good job, a recent promotion and was pretty stable.
Naturally, the poster pushed back, saying that there’s no way that’s happening and suggested going together to places where they wouldn’t have to pay, such as chilling at home or a park, to which the friend reacted negatively, thinking that OP should just help out. According to a comment by OP, her friend would also act as if she was too good for the outdoors. Clementine says that she hates it, always has, and always finds something to complain about.
In another subreddit, the pleasingly dubbed Entitled B*tch, OP posted about three months later with some more details. Clementinecutie13 suggested some positions to her friend, but they didn’t work out, because she wanted to work two days per week and not in the evening.
The friend would continuously complain about how little money she had and how OP should help her out. Turns out, this behavior continued for about 4 months, according to Clementine.
Every time they would go out, she’d complain about being strapped for cash and follow it up with “but I’m not ready to get a job yet, I’m in school.” Even more ludicrously, she only had one class a day for the entire week, according to OP.
Ever since then, they haven’t been hanging out much at all. Plus, she doesn’t want to enable the friend, because the situation would only get worse, as her mom is already doing so.
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Even more details are revealed in the comments of both posts. The friend worked at a fast food place before quitting and when OP attempted to refer to her job, she vehemently refused, citing some sort of “conflict of interest” even though they would have worked at different locations. Clementine intuits that she just doesn’t want to work in fast food, retail, etc.
She’s also living with her parents, so she doesn’t really need to spend on rent, food, or worry about a lot of the concerns of upkeeping a place of her own.
There are a lot of peeps on the internet wondering whether you should give money to your friends: paying them for their services, giving them small or larger loans, and things such as occasionally paying for their lunches. An article by Chris Lema suggests that you should pay for lunch all the time.
Chris says that besides being virtuously generous, it may have some practical benefits. It may make people like you more, as people love gifts, and they may reciprocate with more of the same. Also it may have some business advantages, but Chris’s tips are likely more for well-off businesspeople.
Others also say that you should never lend money to your friends or even give money to them. People on Quora discussed this, with some saying that you should never ever give money to friends, as it ruins friendships often, with people beginning to fight over money.
Then again, if you trust the person and know they’ll be able to pay you back, it’s no big deal. It’s really up to you to decide what’s within your means and whether you feel good about having money pass between you and your friends.
Clementine’s post gathered more than a thousand upvotes and 150 comments. The community judged her not to be a jerk, saying that she should really respect herself more and get better friends. Do you have similar stories of super entitled friends? Let us know in the comments!
The community judged that the poster wasn’t a jerk, saying that she needs to get better friends
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