Relationships are complicated. It may seem that if you love each other, what could go wrong? However, sometimes love is not enough. You can love the person but still choose to leave due to various reasons and one of the most common ones is having different views towards life, ambitions and plans.
A Reddit user posted a story about her son and his girlfriend, the two main characters who are completely different in terms of ambition— well, her son has none at all. And this exact issue led to the end of their 3-year relationship.
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Sometimes loving each other is not enough to continue the relationship
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This woman shares that her 20 Y.O. son turned out to have no ambition to either work or study and spends his free time gaming or partying, while his girlfriend is the complete opposite
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She notes that while her son still loves his girlfriend, he doesn’t give her the attention she deserves and one day she came over and looked visibly upset
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They got to talk and his girlfriend opened up that she doesn’t understand why her boyfriend has so little ambition and she doesn’t know what to do
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The woman told her that she needs to put herself first and it doesn’t look like he’s going to change, which led to the breakup of the couple
A Reddit user recently shared her story online asking one of the most judgmental communities’ members if she was being a jerk for advising her son’s girlfriend to rethink their relationship, which led to her breaking up with him. The post caught a lot of attention and collected over 14K upvotes and 3.5K comments.
The original poster (OP) starts her story by sharing that her 20-year-old son has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for about 3 years. She added that when they met in high school, they were a perfect match, but now her son has no wish to either work or study, spends his free time gaming or partying and doesn’t give his girlfriend the attention that she deserves.
She added that a couple of days ago, her son’s girlfriend came to visit and looked sad. After her son left, the young woman said that she didn’t know what to do and didn’t understand why the man was so lazy. OP told her that unfortunately she doesn’t see him changing anytime soon and she should put herself first. Well, fast forward a couple days, OP’s son comes in, furious, saying that his girlfriend broke up with him and the message referred to ‘discussions with your mom.’
The community members gave the woman the ‘Not the A-hole’ badge and assured her that she didn’t tell his girlfriend to break up with him. “NTA you didn’t tell her to break up with him, you told her she needs to put herself first which is solid advice to anybody,” one user wrote. “NTA. First of all, you didn’t go out of your way to tell her to break up. She sought out your advice and you gave her an honest answer,” another added.
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“Finding a partner who can reciprocate love is undoubtedly essential, but it’s equally vital to seek compatibility beyond just emotional connection,” shared Sandra Harewood, psychotherapeutic counsellor and relationship coach, with Bored Panda. “Shared interests and ambitions add depth to a relationship, fostering mutual understanding and growth.”
However, she noted that striving for a perfect match isn’t necessary – maintaining individual goals and dreams is healthy. “Effective communication is pivotal in aligning relationships with individual needs,” she emphasized.
It’s also important to add that couples may benefit from seeking guidance from a therapist to prevent resentment, conflict, or passive behaviors from undermining their connection.
Now, Sandra Harewood points out that balancing individuality and connection poses a common challenge in relationships, but it’s possible to be authentic while maintaining a strong bond with a partner. She added that “Paradoxically, prioritizing personal growth and well-being enhances communication, clarifies needs, wants and desires and facilitates constructive conflict management.”
Finally, she shared that this mindset fosters independence and trust in one’s judgment, enabling individuals to make relationship choices autonomously. Don’t forget to check out Sandra’s blog and explore her ‘What’s Your Relationship Archetype?’ quiz!
But what do you think about this story? Was the woman being a jerk, or do you think she didn’t do anything wrong? Share your thoughts below!
Redditors backed up the woman, assuring her that she didn’t tell her son’s girlfriend to end the relationship
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