Why does it often seem like punctuality is something you’re either born with or you’re not? We’re all capable of being punctual, but at the same time, we all know someone who never fails to show up 15 minutes late to school, work, dates and probably even their own wedding.
Well, one man recently decided that he was tired of waiting around for his wife and attempted to teach her a lesson. Below, you’ll find the full story that he shared on the “Am I the [Jerk]?” subreddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left him.
This man knows that his wife struggles with punctuality
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So when she wasn’t ready to leave for a baseball game on time, he decided to try to teach her a lesson
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It’s common for people to struggle with punctuality
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What is it about being on time that is so challenging for some of us? If you have to be at work at 7am, it’s understandable that you may occasionally sleep through your alarm. But some individuals seem to be late for everything, regardless of how little traffic is on the road, how free they were prior to the event and how much they actually do want to be there.
When it comes to showing up to work on time, one 2019 study found that older women are the most punctual age group of all, with 99% of women aged 55-75 showing up on time every single day. Meanwhile, 76% of men in their twenties and thirties admitted that they were late at least once over the past year. In fact, over half of all workers receiving an hourly wage, 52% to be exact, say they turn up late at least once a year.
But where does this tardiness come from? According to PsychCentral, impulsivity, inattentiveness and “time blindness” can all contribute to a person being chronically late. People with ADHD also tend to struggle with punctuality, as ADHD often leads people to be less organized, have time blindness or trouble perceiving time, having working memory deficits, become bored easily or become impulsive.
Sometimes mental disorders and mental health issues can even contribute to tardiness
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PsychCentral notes that some of the other conditions that are often linked to chronic tardiness include social anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), narcissism, substance use disorder and schizophrenia. But having a habit of showing up late doesn’t mean there’s always something diagnosable present.
“If we have a lot of experience performing a task, we are more likely to underestimate how long it will take,” Emily Waldum, an adjunct professor at Campbell University in North Carolina, told Live Science. If you drive to that part of town every day, you might believe it’s closer than it is. If you do your makeup the same every morning, you might not realize how long it actually takes you to perfect your look. And before you know it, you’re running late.
Waldum also noted that multitaskers are more likely to be tardy than people who prefer handling one responsibility at a time. But unless the behavior is addressed, latecomers aren’t likely to change their ways, because they often don’t see it as a problem. “We can be on time when it matters, when there will be negative consequences for our lateness, like missing a flight,” Grace Pacie, author of ‘Late! A Timebender’s guide to why we are late and how we can change,’ told Live Science. So as long as they show up when it matters, they believe there’s nothing to worry about.
But there are ways we can help our chronically late partners be more punctual
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While it’s understandable for spouses and partners to be frustrated if their significant other can’t ever seem to be on time, this is not necessarily behavior we should punish them for. Stacey Laura Lloyd at Brides.com recommends speaking with your partner about why their lateness bothers you and trying to get to the bottom of it together.
If you can help your partner become more punctual, why not try to make their life a little bit easier? Give them friendly reminders before it’s time to leave the house, and don’t hesitate to pack what they might need for them. Aim to leave the house 15 minutes early if you have to, so you’re on schedule by the time you’re actually out the door. They’re likely to appreciate the help, and it can prevent anyone from feeling resentful.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this story in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this man was justified in leaving his wife at home without a word? Feel free to share, and then if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article discussing spousal drama, look no further than right here!
Many readers told the husband he acted unfairly
However, some were on his side
And others believed that both parties could have acted more maturely
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