If you look at the divorce rate curve in the United States over the past three decades, it turns out that during this period the rate has almost halved – from 4.7 in 1990 to 2.5 in 2021, and in COVID-affected 2020, there were 2.3 divorces per 1000 people. And yet, given the size of the population, this is still over 800 thousand divorces per year.
And where there are divorces, there are children, who then have to live with step-families and, alas, sometimes learn fully what neglect and bullying are. And these stories do not always end with a happy ending – after all, Cinderella lived in a fairy tale, but, for example, the user u/Dismal_Handle5654, the heroine of our story today, lived in a sad reality…
The author of the post is an 18 Y.O. girl whose parents divorced when she was around 6
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Soon after, the girl’s mom remarried a guy who already had three of his own kids
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So actually, many years under one roof were full of bullying for the author
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The worst part of it was that the girl’s mom didn’t even lift a finger to stick up for her daughter
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So when the author turned 18, she spent that day with her dad and friends, and then got berated for doing so by her step-family
So, the Original Poster (OP) says that she recently turned 18, and her parents divorced when she was about 6 Y.O. After some time, the girl’s mother remarried, and her stepdad by that time already had three kids, a boy and two girls, all a little younger than the author of the post.
Now four children lived under one roof – with all the ensuing consequences. Even though the OP was older than all of them, she still had to face a lot of unpleasant moments in all the subsequent years. There was then outright bullying from her stepsiblings and, perhaps most offensively, some neglect from her own mother.
Yes, the author’s stepfather spared no expense on gifts for his own children, always throwing them magnificent birthday parties, and his wife… well, the wife usually agreed with her spouse and did not bother to advance the interests of her own daughter.
The girl’s dad was always happy to buy his daughter some kind of gift, though as the author of the post admits, his financial capabilities could not be compared with those of her stepfather. So it turned out that for more than a decade of her life, the original poster consistently felt hurt, upset and, in fact, somehow betrayed.
And now, it’s time for her 18th birthday, and the OP, quite reasonably believing that she certainly doesn’t owe these people anything, had a party with her friends and dad. Even though it was nothing pompous or solemn, everything took place in a pleasant atmosphere, and the girl was glad to be with those who sincerely loved her.
However, when she returned to her stepfather’s house late in the evening, it turned out that they also wanted to throw a party for her birthday, and now attacked her with reproaches, accusing the girl of ruining the day for them all. When the OP said that she spent that day with her dad and friends, her stepfather and mom accused her of ingratitude… well, you might know this formulation very well: “after all that we have done for you,” regardless of whether they actually did anything or not… Well, that’s life, and it’s not a Disney cartoon, after all…
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“Unfortunately, this is also a very common situation – when step-parents openly turn a blind eye to stepchildren’s bullying from their own kids,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment on this situation. “As for the stepfathers or stepmothers themselves, they are often honestly convinced that if they give the child a roof over their head, food and perhaps education, and do nothing bad towards them, then this is already quite enough to consider themselves decent parents.”
“And, of course, they sincerely believe that this child owes them ‘for everything you did for them.’ Yes, adolescence can be very difficult in terms of developing relationships with step-parents, but there was still child bullying here, and this, just believe me, is a very complicated story. In the end, children can be very cruel without even realizing it. And, in the end of the day, this girl has every right to spend her birthday with whomever she sees fit. What more can we be talking about here?” Irina ponders.
Of course, the vast majority of users in the comments supported the original poster, simultaneously subjecting her step-relatives to serious criticism. Moreover, according to some commenters, the author should go further and explain in detail to her mom, stepdad and perhaps stepsiblings what was problematic for her about their behavior throughout all these years spent under the one roof.
In the end, it’s good that the girl has already turned eighteen, and now she has the right to manage her life on her own. “They should not be surprised when you move out and go no-contact,” one of the folks in the comments reasonably wrote. And, you know, it’s hard to disagree with this. So what do you, our dear readers, think about the behavior of all the characters in this story? Please share your opinions in the comments below this post.
However, most commenters unanimously sided with the girl, claiming that she did everything right here
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